Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT as it is most commonly known, is probably the most popular of a group of techniques collectively referred to as Energy Psychology (EP)
Energy Psychology achieves a psycho-therapeutic end, but it does so by working at an energetic level within the body, rather than the mental functions of the mind.
Some EP methods utilize Chakras in their emotional release work, while others, such as EFT, utilize the body’s acupuncture system. EFT does this by gently tapping on acupuncture points to stimulate and “open” them, allowing an increase in the free flow of energy throughout our body. You are about to learn why this is so important in terms of our feelings.
The foundational principle behind EFT is what is referred to as “The Discovery Statement”, and it states that the cause of all negative emotion is a disruption to the flow of energy in our body; more specifically, a disruption of energy flow within our acupuncture system.
Energetically speaking, our default settings are ones of wellbeing, freedom and ease. To the degree that we create and experience resistance to the flow of energy in our body, we create and experience lesser degrees of wellbeing and ease.
If we are experiencing severe distress, we can know that in that moment, we are experiencing massive resistance within our energy system.
A useful metaphor is to think of our energy system as like the plumbing in our house. Disruption within our energy system is not dissimilar to a “kink” in the garden hose. A small kink will disrupt the flow of water but not to any great degree.
If we think of ourselves in this situation, we experience this minor kink as feeling less than we would like to feel, but for the most part, we can function fully. It is just that our quality of what we are experiencing is less than what it could be.
And if we have a severely knotted hose, we experience much greater resistance and stronger, more painful feelings. What largely determines our subjective experience of life is the amount of resistance we routinely carry around with us.
Once we release this resistance, and EFT is without doubt one of the most powerful tools available today to do so, we feel better. More often than not this affect is immediate.
A big part of EFT’s claim to fame is how quickly it can work. And a large part of its speed and effectiveness is that it targets the body rather than the mind. Now we all know as humans we have an almost infinite capacity to generate all kinds of emotional upheaval in our lives.
And you are probably also aware of how difficult it can be to try and find solutions to our problems when we are right in the middle of them, experiencing not just the problem, but also all of the negative less than useful feelings that go with it.
The beauty of EFT is that irrespective of the specific aspects and issues that may be involved in our individual problems, in EFT terms we are only ever dealing with one thing – disruption of the flow of energy in our body.
If we address this disruption and resistance rather than the symptomatic associated emotions (anger, fear, sadness etc) we free ourselves of the associated pain rather quickly and very often gain insight into the possible solution we are seeking.
Once the pain has been released, or at least eased, we are almost always capable of figuring out what we need to do to create the change that we want, in whatever areas of our life problems exist.
The major part of what leads to our apparent inability to deal with problematic areas in our life, is our inability to detach from the pain we are experiencing in relation to those problems.
When we experience strong painful feelings (they shouldn’t be considered negative because they are offering us very useful and much needed feedback about what is going on around us) we are basically in a fight-flight survival situation. When this happens, our higher thought function switches off to a greater or lesser extent and we, all of a sudden, become incredibly resource-less.
This is not a mental or emotional issue at all, yet this is where most therapy is aimed. What this is is a neurological issue, as this fight-flight response is hard wired into our nervous system.
In EFT terms, it is an energetic issue, as the acupuncture system, or some specific pathway within it, becomes jammed leading to disrupted flow of energy and the resulting painful feelings.
So how does EFT resolve this energy disruption issue? The technique of EFT comprises of tapping a specific sequence of acupuncture points around the face, chest and hand. These particular points are situated towards the beginning or the end of the main acupuncture channels within the body. In total EFT utilizes 13 points in what is referred to as “The Basic Recipe”.
Points are tapped gently for about 10 repetitions, and then you move onto the next point in the sequence. At the end of the Basic Recipe you evaluate how you are feeling to determine if you need to repeat the tapping sequence.
In most cases (the literature quotes 80% but most people experience a much higher percentage) there will be a dramatic reduction in the painful feelings. As unbelievable as this may sound very often you will find the pain has gone completely.
A problem that may have been an issue for years can potentially be released in minutes, if not seconds. Phobias are a classic example of the amazing results possible with EFT.
Phobias that have been with someone all their life can be treated and cleared very quickly when the body is treated rather than the mind.
Does EFT work all the time? Of course not. So far nothing really works all the time. Our understanding of the technique and how it works as well as sciences understanding of our bodies and minds and how they work, is far from complete.
As the creator of EFT, Gary Craig says “We are on the ground floor of a healing high-rise” There is much work and discovery still to do.
However, those who use this technique in a clinical setting, and their numbers are growing daily, will attest to the most amazing results in cases where nothing else has seemed to work.
EFT is not a cure all and shouldn’t be looked at this way. What it is, is an incredibly powerful easy to learn and apply self-help tool, that with a little practice, will allow you to choose how you feel in any situation.
If emotional freedom is what you seek, there is no better tool than EFT to help you attain it.
Ian Williamson
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/achieve-emotional-freedom-53471.html
How many people actually live up to the following standards of being a parent?
Every Child Needs: Home
1) Unconditional Love: physical and emotional warmth and closeness, through both good times and bad. In conjunction with an enduring sense of trust from both sides, unconditional love forms the foundation for a lifelong, mutually respectful, nurturing relationship between parent and child.
2) Validation: affirmation for a child’s thoughts, feelings, ideas, efforts, and especially for his or her individuality as a human being. Validation begins with a parent’s highly attuned attention. Through generous praise, recognition, appreciation, hugs, pats on the back, and so forth, a child comes to feel as though his or her feelings truly matter within the family unit. Feeling solidly supported by our families during childhood is the primary mechanism for the formation of healthy self-esteem in human beings.
3) Structure:an environment of "healthy limits" in which a child can grow and thrive. Good structure for children is a matter of balance. In order for them to feel emotionally secure and yet still have the freedom to grow, children need to experience age-appropriate, continually expanding boundaries as they mature. Nonoppressive, sometimes negotiable (where appropriate) limits are enforced with compassionate discipline, the ultimate goal being to teach children the arts of self-discipline and self-motivation.
4) Understanding: a child gains emotional security from knowing that he or she can make mistakes (even the mistake of behaving badly) without being shamed or degraded with excessive parental anger or harsh punishment. In this type of nurturing family system, parents understand that mistakes are an integral part of the learning process, and that children learn life’s lessons more fully when they are guided with an "empathetic hand."
5) Healthy Modeling: consistent parental examples of emotional wholeness. We parents must show our children the way toward balance in life by modeling such things as emotional generosity toward others, calm and effective problem-solving skills (particularly in our dealings with them), healthy coping strategies in regard to our own daily stresses, and the ability to set goals and sustain our efforts in achieving them. For better or worse, our parental behavior is the most powerful life teacher for our children.
6) Challenge: age-appropriate incentives for a child to learn life’s emotional and practical lessons at each developmental stage. In order to bolster our children’s ability to problem-solve and achieve their goals, their minds need to be stimulated by learning new skills and overcoming obstacles. As we parents offer our children a wide variety of subject matter to explore, our use of encouragement and praise is key in sustaining their desire to master their world.
7) Inclusion: a sense of belonging to the family group, and to the community at large. A healthy attachment to the primary caregiver in childhood is the first way that children learn to feel like welcome and valuable members of the family group. This core sense of belonging is what enables children to move confidently into the world, and reach out to others in a spirit of good will and camaraderie. It is important for them to experience the satisfaction of having other people depend on them, as well, which is taught in the home by having each child be responsible for important family duties. In this way, our children will learn to be responsible to themselves, to their families, and to society.
When a child’s developmental needs are met, he or she will naturally begin to experience:
Healthy Self-Esteem: core feelings of self-acceptance, self-confidence, and self-respect as an individual. A child develops healthy self-esteem when his or her feelings, ideas, and achievements are accepted, valued, and supported within the family unit over the long term. Unlike arrogance – which is often a coping mechanism for covering up underlying feelings of worthlessness – healthy self-esteem is the keystone to understanding, respecting, and valuing others.
Self-Actualization: a child’s growing recognition of his or her unique thoughts and abilities throughout the maturation process. The prime goal of parenting is to prepare our children for independence in adulthood. We parents must therefore consistently encourage our children’s journey toward autonomy, so they can learn to thrive "without us," emotionally, materially, and spiritually.
"Children thrive in an environment of being valued and loved."
http://www.living-library.com/HeartMates/needs.htm
Wow !!!!!!
First of all……. are you writing a book
or what ?????????????????????
You have ( in writing ) practical and valid
understanding of the most ‘perfect’ environment
for a child…….. but I’m afraid not realistically .
Any ‘good’ parent tries their level best to give
their child all of those qualities of a ‘home life’.
Text book instructions such as "When a child’s
developmental needs are met, he or she will
‘naturally’ begin to experience:" are not compatible
to reality in the ‘normal’ home life within the United
States.
But, in your wording I can hear Dr. Spock speaking
out from the grave……… whom 30 years after his
proclamation of child rearing admitted that he was
wrong.
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Sorry all that at all times is impossible..You can implement those things here and there but if you did it 24/7 you will end up with a touchy feely liberal who will cry at work because the boss was displeased with the work they did …. They will expect everyone everywhere to treat them that way as well…. There’s nothing wrong with throwing in some harsh realities with truth…..It’s no wonder why allot of young adults can’t handle pressures and are lazy! Touchy feely never got anybody anywhere but doses of reality will help them handle the real world….
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I work in child welfare and i can tell you that i have yet to meet a family that provides all of these things…it is impossible…we would love to say we provide our child with everything they need…but to be honest if we did all that you describe…that child would never leave home…and when they did they would be destroyed in the REAL world. sorry but you are proposing something that is impossible for any parent.
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they say it’s impossible but i would have to disagree.. my aunt and uncle have a very lovely family (3 children) and a beautiful house and they both have great jobs which allow them to spend a lot of time with their kids. My aunt teaches children with mental disabilities so that also gives her the advantage of having more patience and my uncle is a state trooper so he has a lot of structure and he has always been very patient. Neither of them were born into wealthy families so getting to where they are now was just as hard as any other average American getting there. All of the kids are involved in activities. I’ve yet to hear any of them curse all though all kids misbehave sometimes. They are 3,4,and 5 years old. Their house is never a mess and they are all on an amazing schedule. They are always being positively reinforced and are unbelievable smart………….. i actually envy them because i have 2 younger brothers and i wish my mother could be as organized, patient, and interactive as them. i hope this answers your question.
i could ramble on and on about how much they love each other too and love to take pictures together and blah blah but i think you get the point..
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theres alot of values there. you got some high standards parents. all i want is uncondititional love, thats all. i can decide how i want my body.
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